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April 9, 2014

Success Large and Small is Proof That You Can Achieve More

Filed under: Personal Development,Self Empowerment — Tags: , , , — Shirland Carrington @ 8:15 am

“Every success be it large or small, is proof that you are capable of achieving more successes”.  Napoleon Hill made that previous statement in “Think and Grow Rich”.  I understood this to mean exacting as it is quoted from “Think and Grow Rich”.  You must take the time to appreciate the smaller things in life so that when times are rough you would look back at those small successes.

Success is defined as “the favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors; the accomplishment of one’s goals.”  The “prosperous termination of attempts”, it does not state how many attempts were made just that you achieved your goals.  When you are trying to make that first dollar online and you achieve that goal why did you not celebrate it.  Sam Cooke sang that “change is gonna come” and one thing that you can be sure is that you can never have highs without lows.

I think that most people focus on the big picture of success so when the little successes arrives that person tends to ignore them.  “You can recall it when you begin to lose faith in yourself”Napoleon Hill’s “think and Grow Rich”.  One thing you know is that when the small successes is few and far between you will want to quit.  I remember many years ago when a new business was opened the owner use to keep the first dollar that he or she made.  The owner would tape it to the wall as a reminder that the journey was started.

I have learn that it is better to celebrate the small accomplishment so that the large successes will be appreciated even more.  This might be the difference between quitting or continue towards your goals.  Celebrating small successes is sometimes very difficult for people that are not accustom to being successful.


P.S Start where you are, use what you have, do what you can, and finish what you start

November 26, 2013

Golden Nuggets #5: Education and Intelligence is Not The Same Thing Zig Ziglar See You at The Top

Filed under: Personal Development — Tags: , , , — Shirland Carrington @ 8:20 am

Zig Ziglar in his book “See you at The Top” talks about education vs. intelligence and which one is more important.  Zig states that ” three of the most intelligent and success people I know finished the 3rd, 5th and 8th grades.”  He was talking about Henry Ford and Thomas J. Watson were two of the three.  Henry Ford legacy is still going on today.  Henry Ford believed that if he needed anything beyond his capacity he would hire that person.  He knew his strengths and weaknesses and was not ashamed to get someone who knew the answer.  He also knew how to get what he needed out of his “people”.  Watson was the “founder of IBM and he went from a $6.00 a week salesman to chairman of the board”.  The American dream at it finest.   The difference between these two and the “average” guy is that they were dedicated.  The “formal” education was not necessary for these highly successful people.  It was the intelligence and the will to never quit that made them successful.

When I was growing up I was told to go to school and complete your education.  I would then go to work for a company for twenty-five to thirty years and then retire and live happily ever after.  I know that scenario sound familiar to many people.  I follow that path for many years but, then I realized that it was not the life for me.  When I had that awakening I have always been on alert for the opportunity that would help me succeed.  I don’t believe in jumping on the next shiny object that catches my eye.  I follow opportunities that I feel good about.

If you missed gold nugget #4 which deals specifically about the fact you cannot consistently perform in a manner that is inconsistent with the way you see yourself”.

Education is one thing, but intelligence is totally something else all together.   My formal degree is Electrical Engineering,  my real education I imagine would not begin until after I read my last Engineering book.  It would be the hands on knowledge that would make me a successful engineer.  My first degree is Electrical Engineering , I have never held a position with that title.  I can only speculate that how it would be in my life since everything else I do is actually like that.

Zig Ziglar believe that intelligence is not required to be successful.  He state success is in the hands of the person who is trying to achieve it.  It is only necessary like Napoleon Hill’s stated that he has a burning desire towards the achievement of his or her goals and dreams.

November 9, 2013

Napoleon Hill’s Law of Success Lesson #7: Self- Control is The Balance Wheel That Directs Your Action

Napoleon Hill writes in “Law of Success in Fifteen Lessons” Enthusiasm is a “vital moving force that impels action” and Self control is the “balance wheel that directs your action so that it will build up and not tear down.”  Self control is compared to a balance wheel which is a key component of mechanical watches.  It is very important that it returns to its original position.  When we are not in control of our action it is most likely that we will be lead astray.  Enthusiasm is contagious you may pass it on to the next person easily. Have you either watch a person who was so on fire that you found your self getting emotionally charged.  You were ready to do whatever the person wanted you to do  at the time.  When the person left how did you keep that enthused feeling up.  The odds are you did not, because it may have passed on without difficult.

Self control is the most important trait that you must possess when you are trying to stay on track.  The track is never cleared of obstacles, but  controlling one’s self allow your goals and dreams to come true.  When you continue to struggle daily in your business and your goals never come to fruition.  The desire to give up is a daily demon and it is very easy to give up.  the worse enemy that we face on a daily basis is the negativity between our ears.  The self defeating, self defecating and mental vomit that we feed ourselves on a regular basis.


The more control that you have over the space between the ears the greater the opportunity that you will succeed in your life, business and relationship.  It does not a strong belief in the Law of Attraction that “if you belief that you can’t that it is so”.  I have been in and around selling for most of my life and one thing I know is that if you believe that that person will not buy from you, it is no surprise when they don’t.  I am not saying that you will sell everyone that you present your product or services to, but if you don’t have self-control.  No sale. Self control is the key to continue your journey to become successful.

August 26, 2013

It is The Little Things That Matter to Make Your Life, Relationship and Business Flourish

It is amazing how much the little things in your life, relationships and business really matters .  I was witnessed this week to the final part of three seemingly insignificant events that made a dramatic change in my friend’s life.   We might think that the little things does not matter, but in reality little things are more important than the big picture.  The saying goes that we must stop and smell the roses.  We stand from afar and admire the beauty of the rose, but how often do we stop to truly appreciate it up close.  The answer is not usually.

When I think of how this relates to my business it all about “modi operandi” that is the key to my business success.  If you treat your business like a “hobby” then guess what it will continue to be.  It is about the little things that we do everyday to propel our businesses forward.  Are you marketing, advertising and developing strategies daily in your business?  If not it is not too late to begin.  You may directs, contain and utilize the power of water, but you may never control or destroy it.  A continuous stream of water could destroy the biggest rock over time.  It might not happen for one, five or fifty but rest assure it will happen.  How could doing the little things impact your life and relationships?

If you don’t believe that it is the little things stop reading this post and send your love one an unexpected appreciative “love note”.  The reaction that you will receive will be surprising.  This note of gratitude will not only benefit your loved one, but will also benefit you also.  The series of little things is what make a great relationship.  When your significant other is complaining about you leaving the toilet seat up is it really about the toilet seat of something deeper that is bothering her. As men we are late to pick up on these little “subtleties” that will snowball into an avalanche that will bury us.

The quicker that we pick up on these little “disagreements”  the sooner we can work on finding the “solution”.  I have placed solution in quotation, because that is a whole new discussion about men and women differences.  It has come to me time and time again that it is the little things that make your life, relationship and business better.  This week I want you to focus on the little things, then give me some feedback.


August 1, 2013

Napoleon Hill’s Law of Success in Fifteen Lesson The Habit of Doing More Than Paid For is Revisited

Napoleon Hill’s The Law of Success in Fifteen Lesson revisits the habit of doing more than paid for, which was first introduced in “Think and Grow Rich”.  When I first read about this concept I saw it in a totally different light.  When I write my blog articles I always let them sit for a day or so.  I don’t know what it is, but for some reason I always revised it to reflect my feelings at that moment.  It should be no big surprise that as I read an article that I wrote on this same topic back in June, 2009 I am feeling differently about it.  The act doing more than is ask is the key to sending the right vibe out into the Universe.  If you send out positive vibes, then you would receive positive vibes in return.

It is like you are building a favor chest that will overflow the more you do thing without expecting something in return.  It is not only about doing more than is expected of you, but doing it without waiting for something in return.  Napoleon Hill has a way of getting to the crux of the matter without hesitation.  For example,  I was listening to my daily morning show the other day and Steve Harvey was using the example of a neighbor borrowing sugar to get his point across.  A new neighbor comes on day one to ask for a bowl of sugar, you would probably give it to him the sugar without hesitation.  The neighbor leave without a simple thank you. The neighbor comes  day two and the same thing happens,  no thank you again.  How do you react on day three when the neighbor appears at your door?

If you are in the habit of doing more than you are paid you would give the neighbor the sugar.  If you are like the average person in the world, you might give the sugar but not without a barrage of choice words.  There is no wrong way to respond to this attitude of ingratitude. The question is when do you stop being taken advantage of.  When I  managed restaurants back in the early part of my career,  I learned a few critical lessons.  You always will encounter people who want something for nothing.  It is how you react to these “freeloaders” that matters.  If you assume that everyone is like that then you will become jaded.  You will look at every customer complaint as someone looking for a free meal.  I treated each situation on a case by case basis,  because I realized that these “freeloaders” only accounted for a small percentage of our business.   I was in the habit of doing more than you are paid, so my decision was easy.

P.S.  There are some crucial character traits that you need to succeed and they are initiative and leadership.  Napoleon gets very deep into this subject in Law of Success in Fifteen Lesson.  Read my thoughts on this topic  here


March 25, 2013

Napoleon Hill’s Law of Success Lesson #6: Enthusiasm is a Vital Moving Force That Impels Action

Filed under: Personal Development — Tags: , , — Shirland Carrington @ 8:46 am

Napoleon Hill’s Law of Success Lesson #6: Enthusiasm is a vital moving force that impels action.  Napoleon Hill states that the greatest leaders are those who inspire enthusiasm in their followers. It is one thing for the followers to be pumped up it is even better when they have a definite chief aim. When the followers has a laser sharp enthusiastic belief system, then everything will explode. Enthusiasm is very contagious. The acronym for the last four letter is I.A.S.M is I am sold myself.

When you are sold about your life, business or relationships you feel no pain, require no sleep and barely require nutrients.  When you are enthuse it like you are walking on a cloud way above the trees. Your feet never touches the ground.  I know it sound mythical and almost unbelievable, but when you are sold on what you are doing it is so much easier to jump out of bed every morning.  If you don’t believe that then you might appreciate this fact most heart attacks occur early Monday morning.

The most popular time for heart attacks  is within the last three hours of getting up to go to work.  The heart stopped beating, because most people dreaded going into their job on Monday morning. Monday is the deadliest day of the week for a myocardial infraction. The weekend was fantastic, but the prospect of having to go into work is overwhelming. The flip side is Fridays, people are looking forward to the weekend.  The enthusiasm and the buzz about what you are going to do on the weekend is out of this world.  It is truly unnecessary to motivate anyone to race through the door. It is so much easier to get work done to complete the day. The least productive, but most enthusiastic is the last hour before quitting time.

We feel no pain just before going home for the weekend.  When we feel enthusiasm, we accomplish more. When I initially worked in the restaurant business I was gung ho and could not wait to get to work.  I was like that for many years until I realized a key important fact.  I could work from can to faint and no matter what the restaurant would continue, even if I left all of a sudden.  When I viewed time with my sons more it was easier to work a plan.  I never knew what it was to have a weekend off, without planning for months ahead of time.  When you are enthusiastic about your goals and dreams it is much easier to accomplish them.  Napoleon Hill ‘s “Laws of Success” are razor targeted on what you need to get where you ant to go.  You have to be selfish with your goals otherwise you will never achieve them.

P.S If you missed Law of Success #5 which is imagination read it here.  Imagination is a great tool in building your successful life, business or relationships.  watch my video below that i did when I READ “Think and Grow Rich” on imagination below:




October 18, 2012

Law of Success Lesson #5: Imagination

Filed under: Personal Development — Tags: , , , , — Shirland Carrington @ 12:33 am

Imagination is like Charles Dickens’ A Tale of Two Cities famous opening line “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair,…. ”  When we are reading the beginning we are trying to visualize the scene that he is describing so we may better get a grasp of where the story is going.  We automatically start thinking about the good times and the bad times in our lives.  When the good times flashes cross your mind you smile.  It is very difficult not to smile when you are thinking about good things.  The bad times take us to a place that we don’t like to be on a regular basis.  Our mood goes from a high to a low as we read this line.  Napoleon Hill uses this concept as it ties into initiative and leadership in his book Law of Success.

“You will never have a definite purpose in life, you will never have self-confidence, you will never have initiative and leadership unless you first create these qualities in your imagination and see yourself in possession of them.”  Imagination is the one thing in our lives that we have absolute control.  Think and Grow Rich stated that desire is the first step to riches.  Our thoughts determines our destiny.  When I was growing up in the 1980s I saw transformation in many people.  A drugs called “crack” was the main cause of these transformations.  I saw people that were productive citizen of the World turn into single focus organisms.  The focus became finding a way to get “high” again.

When you are focusing on getting “high” , how would you able to expand your imagination.  When your thoughts are on things that are not good for you, then it is easy to see your destiny.  Your destiny of self destruction is deeply embedded in your psyche.  When you flip it around and focus on something that is great for you, then you destiny of greatness is also written.  The choice is your….

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September 17, 2012

Law of Success Lesson #4: Initiative and Leadership

Filed under: Personal Development,Self Empowerment — Tags: , , , — Shirland Carrington @ 11:57 am

“…Leadership is essential for the attainment of Success, and Initiative is as essential to success as a hub is essential to a wagon wheel.”  Many major accomplishments may be reached in your life, because of these two essential characteristics.  Napoleon Hill looked at these two keys to success separately but tied them together nicely to teach this lesson.  The old sayings that many of us heard as a child were “too many chiefs and  not enough Indians”  or “too many cooks spoil the broth”.  The first saying have a overabundance of leaders, while the latter had no leader in sight.  The obvious answer is that the right amount of leadership is needed in many organizations to achieve their goals.  The saying would have gone a lot differently if some of the chiefs became Indians and a lone cook stepped up as the head chef.  Leadership and initiative would have solved the dilemmas that they faced.  Napoleon Hill tied these two important concepts together in a big bundle for everyone to comprehend.

Initiative and leadership goes hand in hand.  A great philosopher once said that “Initiative is the pass-key that opens the door to opportunity.”   The major opponent to opening this door is procrastination.  Napoleon Hill believed that procrastination and indecision are twins.  Indecision is probably the worse of the these twins.  You must make the decision and follow through with it to the very end. A person with initiative can not be plagued with indecision.  A decision is defined as choosing a path and cutting off all other alternative pathways.  The ugly head of procrastination must be cut off if you are to succeed.  Procrastination may come in the form of spending extra time on Facebook or other Social Medias instead of doing things that will help you achieve success.   The act of getting ready to get ready never solves anything.  ” Remember that your only limitation is the one that you set up in your mind”


The leader will always see beyond the limitation that other people set for them.  The leader with an acorn and a piece of land might see a future totally different than a follower.  A follower might see a mighty Oak Tree while the leader would see a community with a big mighty Oak Tree,  families living around the tree and a Lake with an overabundance of fishes.  The leader with initiative will not listen to naysayers that tell him that the acorn is just a nut.  The leadership that he will have make him keep his eye on his vision no matter what other people say or do.  His or her ability to block out all negatives, even the negative self talk coming from within.  The end result of families living around the Oak Tree is all the motivation that they need.











June 18, 2012

Procrastination, Deadly Enemy of Success Revisited

Filed under: Personal Development,Self Empowerment — Tags: , , , — Shirland Carrington @ 11:59 am

Procrastination, deadly enemy of success is a blog post that I am revisiting.  Procrastination is the deadly enemy of your success.  Procrastination destroys your desire to succeed in your life and business.  When a decision is made all other choices are severed.   Procrastinating is the opposite of decision. When people procrastinate productivity becomes non-existent.  There are many reasons why people put off till to tomorrow what they can do today.  The amazing thing is for some reason tomorrow never comes.  The pain of discipline weighs ounces, while the pain of regret weight pounds. Overcoming procrastination is a much easier way to achieving success.   I will discuss six main reasons why people procrastinate in this blog post.

6 Reasons why people procrastinate:

1. You’re Bored.

When your life become routine and you just go through the motion. When the initial enthusiasm of operating a business wears off, most people need a new challenge.  You must ask yourself these simple questions.  Am I bored with what I’m Doing?  Why am I bored?  What would give me more energy?  You must recognize that you are bored and be very aware of your feelings.  The appeal of a routine business is never something they will settle for.  When the new shiny has lost it luster unsuccessful people move on to the new shiny opportunity.  Successful people are quick to make a decision and slow to change it.  The unsuccessful people are slow to make a decision and quick to change it.  The guise of boredom is just about a good enough excuse to move on.  Successful people look for bigger and better opportunities to keep their juices flowing.

2. You are overwhelmed with work.

When you see a juggler with a few balls in the air, you might noticed that nothing is being accomplished.  The juggler is so focus on making sure the balls don’t drop that he does not notice the moss under his feet.  The fact remains that as long as he is just keeping the balls in the air, he will never move forward.  When you let tasks pile up by putting it off to the next day, you are becoming a master juggler.  The chances are that the more tasks you put off till the next day the heavier those balls will become. Your arm will develop into powerful muscles, and ironically those muscles will help you throw the balls higher, therefore allowing you to add more balls into your routine. The best way to not be overwhelmed is to let a few of the balls drop.  When you pick it up off the floor evaluate it and either throw it back in the air or put it to the side.  It might seem simplistic at best, but you must lessen the load by doing a little bit at a time.

3. Your confidence has slipped.

Procrastination leads to fear and doubt.  A person who does not have confidence in themself is bound to plagued by it in different ways.   Indecision is one of the worst ways to succumb to fear.   There are some major fears that keep people from achieving success.  The fear of death, criticism, and ill health are a small selection of those fears.  The mind is a powerful thing and when it is hitting all cylinders there is nothing that can’t be achieved.  When the mind is not right then procerastination can set up a bed there.  When you are not sure that you have the ability to do a job, inaction occurs.  Doubting yourself makes your confidence slip.  When your confidence lessen, then those old beliefs systems start to creep into your mind.   Your thoughts dictate your destiny.  If your thoughts are negative then your future will be negative.

4. You have a low self-worth.

Low self esteem is a fall out from your confidence slipping.  When you have low self-worth you sometimes sabotage your success the closer you get to it. The Law of Attraction is a power thing.  When your vibrations is always negative, then you should never be surprised at what comes your way.  You feel like you don’t deserve success which may be due to a negative beliefs system or a traumatic past. If you have a self fulfilling prophecy, then the words you give attention, desire and focus will come back to you. Success in your life and business is only for those who truly want it.  Napoleon Hill state that you must first have a goals and then have a burning desire to its achievement.  Self-worth will truly become a non factor when you follow Napoleon Hill.s mantra.

5. You are doing work you don’t really enjoy.

Successful people do what unsuccessful people don’t do.  Your business sometimes requires that you do mundane tasks, such as paperwork.  These tasks are sometimes a necessary part of your business.  The best thing to do is focus on the things that you are great at and outsource the rest.  You will never enjoy everything that you do so you focus on the things that you truly like to do.  The concept of finding balnce is obsolete,  it is about doing what you love.  When you do what you love, then the Universe will find a way to help you achieve all your goals.

6. You are easily distracted, or just downright lazy!

This is the number one proponent for procrastination.  If you looking for an excuse not to do something, then you have no problem procrastinating.  Success takes consistent and persistent action and laziness has no rightful place in the equation.

Procrastination is a major killer to growing your business and your personal development.  The previous 6 things discuss are the main reasons why people excel in procrastination.  When people become proficient in procrastinating, then they are guaranteed to fail in their life and business.  There are many ways to overcome procrastination, but the best way is to apply consistent and persistent actions without reservation.  Personal development is only as good as the effort that you put into it.

March 16, 2012

Law of Success- Lesson # 3: The Habit of Saving

The Habit of Saving may seem like the most simple lesson in Napoleon Hill’s “Law of Success” fifteen lessons, yet it might be the most difficult. The fact that everything that is simple is not always easy. The current state of America dictates that the majority of the population does not even have $1000 in their savings account. The lesson is not about the amount that is saved, but in fact it gauges the discipline and character of the individual. When you are making less money it is easy to dream about what you would do when you have money. A wise man once said that it is not having money that gives you attitude, but in fact it is the attitude that allows you to acquire money.

A direct quote from the “Law of Success” states that “Expenses increased with every increase in my income, which is a habit,…”. This is not the habit that Napoleon wants readers to derive from this lesson. Many people live by this habit of being spendthrift to the fullest. The concept of keeping money for a rainy day is lost on deaf ears. I am reminded of a story that my mother told me as a child. The way I remember the story is that a man was waiting for a windfall. The time that he was waiting for the money to come he boasted about how much he would give to “charity”. The day came and he received his monies and the charity saw none of it. He was later heard saying that when he did not have the money he had the mind, but once he received the money he did not have the mind. The moral of the story is that you must always have the mind to save money.

I have read a number of different books told by storytellers far better than my mom. The knowledge gained from her has not been overshadowed by those of Og Mandingo and Napoleon Hill. Og Mandingo “The Richest Man in Babylon” discussed seven cures for a lean purse and it was very informative and enlightening. He told this story in the simplest narrative that you could not help, but learn his lessons. The one that stand out for me is the same concept that Napoleon Hill is highlighting in “Law of Success”.

Og Mandingo setting for his book was many hundred years ago. Napoleon Hill and Og Mandingo both believed that saving some of your earning is very important. Saving a percentage of your “salary” allowed you to be ready if any opportunity that required investing money. The opportunity to live your dreams comes unexpectedly. The saying is that when opportunity knocks many people are at the back door. The fact that you don’t have your investment ready could be detrimental to your success. The person with a saving is in a better position to invest than a person with no saving at all. The more disciplined you are in saving for the future the better you are view by others. The act of saving consistently is view as a very strong character trait. The people who do not save are view in a totally different light.

Napoleon Hill tells different stories about people who did not have the discipline to save money. The problem that plague many people is that the more they make the more they spend. This habit is sometimes very difficult to overcome. Napoleon Hill defines a habit as “any act indulged in a few times”. He further states that “the mind appears to be nothing more than a mass of motivating forces growing out of our daily habits.” I draw from this that if our habits are not controlled or directed to better acts, then your future may be ruin extensively. I am in concert with Og Mandingo, and Napoleon Hill, as we say save consistently no matter how small.

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